Sunday, October 28, 2007

Spiritual Friendship Circle

"There is nothing as powerful as an idea whose time has come." -- Victor Hugo

Are you tired of the same materialistic and mundane conversations day after day? Are you looking for others who you can connect with and possibly cultivate some meaningful friendships? In this busy and fast-paced world, it can be a challenge to find others who have the same goals, morals and values as ourselves.

I am seeking curious, eclectic, spiritual women who love nature, animals, hiking, adventure, and travel for intellectual and spiritual conversations in the East Bay. We will meet on the 2nd Sunday of every month from 2:30 PM - 5:30 PM in Walnut Creek or Berkeley. Where we meet is not as important as forming a sanctuary for our circle, a place uninvaded by intrusive sounds, or by other people, a "Do Not Disturb" location.

In the sweet territory of silence we touch the mystery.
It's the place of reflection and contemplation, and it's the place
where we can connect with the deep knowing,
to the deep wisdom way.

--From a talk by Angeles Arrien, author of The Four-Fold Way

The name of our spiritual friendship circle is "Sunday Sangha." Sangha is a Sanskrit word which means an enlightened community and that is what I'm trying to create--an enlightened community of women determined to make a positive impact in the world. Our circle will foster the psyche, trust and authenticity. It will be a safe and sacred place for deep psychological depth and growth, as well as a place for collaborative undertakings, but we'll also have fun! Our circle will be an island of free speech and laughter. We will listen, witness, role model, react, deepen, mirror, laugh, cry, share the wisdom of our experience, support each other and discover ourselves, through talk. As Jean Shinoda Bolen, M.D. states, "When a critical number of people change how they think and behave, the culture does also, and a new era begins. What the world needs now is an infusion of the kind of wisdom women have and the form of the circle itself is an embodiment of that wisdom." The purpose of our spiritual friendship circle is to change the way we think and behave so we can "be the change we wish to see in the world."(Gandhi)

Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed
citizens
can change the world;
indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.


--Margaret Mead

We will rotate leadership within our circle with each member serving as discussion leader for the month. The discussion leader would come up with a topic or question of the month for the other members to address during that month's meeting. Here are some sample questions:

  • How do you lead a spiritual life?
  • How can we realize truth in our daily life?
  • What is anger and why does one become angry?
  • What is happiness in life?
  • How can the mind go beyond its hindrances?
  • How can we know ourselves?
  • What makes us fear death?
  • How can one become intelligent?
  • What is life, and how can we be happy?
  • What is the real way to build up character?
The vision of Sunday Sangha is to "celebrate life and transform it into something that is more sacred, dignified, respectful and equal." If you are interested in new friendships to help you reflect upon your own ideas and insights and enjoy conversations about spirituality, please send an email to gguval@yahoo.com for more information.

Bioneers Conference

On October 21, 2007, I attended the Bioneers Conference in San Rafael, CA. Bioneers is a forum for connecting the environment, health, social justice, and spirit within a broad progressive framework. Go to www.bioneers.org/ for more information. Just like the Craig's List Boot Camp (http://craigslistfoundation.org/index.php?page=Boot_Camp) I attended in August, the Opening Session began with a drum performance. It's interesting how many nonprofit organizations seek to connect people through music, particularly drumbeats. I think the drumbeats are supposed to symbolize the common heartbeat of every living being on Earth. While I sometimes enjoy the sound of drums (depending on my mood), I prefer softer New Age type of music such as Loreena McKennitt. My favorite song from Loreena McKennit is "The Mummers' Dance." According to wikipedia, Mummers' Plays (also known as mumming) are seasonal folk plays performed by troupes of actors known as mummers or guisers (or by local names such as rhymers, pace-eggers, soulers, tipteerers, galoshins and so on), originally in England, Ireland, Scotland and Wales (see wrenboys), but later in other parts of the world. They are sometimes performed in the street but more usually as house-to-house visits and in public houses.

I was deeply moved by Nina Simon's opening talk on fear. Whenever you're engaged in the work of righting social injustices, saving the environment, or protecting the rights of beings who have no voice, you have to face your fears because there will always be those who oppose your work. Nina said, "the way I know I'm on track with my life and my career is when I smell my fear and head straight for it." It's important to question what you are afraid of. When I was in my 20s, my biggest fear was poverty so I entered the financial services industry and became a Financial Consultant for Merrill Lynch because I wanted to make a lot of money. Well, I never earned the riches I dreamed of as a Financial Consultant, but I made a decent living in financial sales. So I remained in financial services for twelve years because it felt safe and I knew I could make a good living in that industry. In Abraham Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, Safety is right above Biological and Physiological Needs, but below Belongingness and Love, Esteem, and Self-Actualization. Many people go through life guided by the need for security and safety, but for me, that's only half a life. The other side of life is fear and in fear, we can discover things about ourselves that we never knew existed. Even more exciting is the discovery that fear can motivate us to achieve things we never thought possible, things that have the power to transform the world.

Nina also said, "Keep heading for what is broken." I see so many broken "things" in our world--broken relationships, broken people, broken spirits, a broken environment. And those are the things I feel most compelled to "fix." I'm particularly motivated to "fix" broken hearts and broken spirits. There is so much violence in our culture, but rather than turn away from it, I feel inspired to find ways to transform it. I love working with the elderly population in my volunteer work at nursing homes, senior centers, and hospitals. They have so much wisdom and in the "busyness" of our careers, families and outside pursuits, we tend to forget they even exist. I see so much loneliness and yearning for a human connection in the eyes of the elderly I meet. In my opinion, ignoring our elders is a form of violence. I call it the unintentional violence of neglect. As a very young child, I experienced what it felt like to be neglected and whether you're an infant or in your 80s, neglect and abandonment feel the same.

Many of the panels discussed how to save our oceans and the inhabitants of the sea. I also feel a deep commitment to saving our oceans and sea creatures. But at the same time, I feel deep anguish about the millions of farm animals that are mercilessly slaughtered every year all over the world. Unless you attend an Animal Rights Conference (which I did in July), many nature/environmental conferences do not really address the plight of farm animals. Like the elderly, they are the "forgotten" animals on our planet. On Saturday, my family and I attended a tour at Animal Place (http://www.animalplace.org/), a farm animal sanctuary in Vacaville, CA. This was a second visit for my son and me. I felt it was important for my husband to see how farm animals should live--in wide open pastures with plenty of fresh air, food, water, and sunshine. Our guide talked about the living conditions of factory farmed animals and how they are slaughtered. Unfortunately, learning more about the sad plight of farmed animals did not convince my husband to become a vegetarian, but it's not too late for my son. I think that once he becomes an adult, he'll become a vegetarian.

At the Bioneers Conference, Dr. Robyn Benson, a Doctor of Oriental Medicine, talked about the Mandala of Being. At the center of the circle is You. Around the circle of You, are six segments -- Family, Work, Play/Travel, Spirituality, Relationships, and Supreme Health. Many of us assign a much larger portion of our pie to Work which is not the way to live a balanced, sustainable life. When I was a Financial Consultant, work certainly took over most aspects of my life. Later, when I started working on my Master's degree in Marketing, school took over my life. But now that I work for a health care consulting firm, my life feels much more balanced. However, my husband would complain that volunteering consumes too much of my life (I volunteer for seven different nonprofit organizations).